Valentine’s Day! Demonstration of Love or Obligation When Love is Truly All That Matters?

Becoming angry or disappointed because you didn’t get something, or have someone on Valentine’s Day is based in fear and lack of self-love. In essence, Love is Love every day, 365 days of the year.  The basis for love is not to receive gifts, but to share the love we feel for others through our giving.

Love is all that truly matters

Valentine’s Day is about showing our love and affection for another. Sadly, today it has become just another commercialized holiday that breeds hostile attitudes among most men who end up spending twice as much money as women to show their love and appreciation, while many women fall prey to shame because they are alone so they send themselves flowers to keep up appearances? Still, many others, both men and women, suffer from the loneliness of a broken heart because they have no one special to celebrate this one overly commercialized day of the year in the name of love.

Simply sharing a simple love note and flowers on Valentine’s Day has grown into a huge multi-billion dollar business as companies push everything from roses and chocolate to expensive romantic getaways.  63% of consumers celebrate Valentine’s Day spending approximately $13 billion dollars to show their love each year.

Love is so commercialized that people now equate love to how much money is spent on them, which is not love at all. The holidays in America are now so commercialized that we have allowed ourselves to get caught up in the spending process over the true reason for any of these seasons, which is Love.

Asking the following questions let’s ponder the tragedy that is now being peddled as Love through consumerism:

  • Just how did we evolve to the level that we celebrate love only one day a year? 
  • Why do we associate Valentine’s gifts as an affectionate demonstration love to the point of obligation?  
  • Why don’t we celebrate and acknowledge the love we have for someone, romantic or otherwise, everyday of the year?

Because men out spend women on Valentine’s Day, women rarely realize that they are sending their men to economic and emotional deaths every Valentine’s day by expecting public material displays of their affection to demonstrate their love, in many cases even when there is no real love in the relationship. This gift giving in the name of love then becomes more about getting recognized by the onset of the gifts in barter for sexual favors. This is not love.  It is manipulation based on commercialism.

Many men are increasingly growing hostile over the increasing commercialized demand placed on them to spend money to show their love and affection on a day that originally honors the death of a saint who American Greetings “claim” offered a love note upon the eve of his death to a love interest.

In essence, the history of Valentine’s day shows it originally never had anything to do with cards, gifts, roses and chocolates.

History of Valentine’s Day

Dr. Diva Verdun - Valentines Day! Demonstration or Obligation - the cost of Valentine's DaySaint Valentine’s Day was a Roman Catholic religious holiday to celebrate the martyrdom of several saint’s named Valentine.  American Greetings has embellished the legend of Valentine and created a story stating that on the evening before Valentine’s execution, he would have written the first “valentine” card himself, addressed to a young girl, the jailer’s daughter whom he had befriended and healed. It was a note that he signed “From your Valentine.”

The following is a reprint from Wikipedia

Saint Valentine’s Day, commonly shortened to Valentine’s Day, is a holiday observed on February 14 honoring one or more early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine. Numerous early Christian martyrs were named Valentine.The Valentines honored on February 14 are Valentine of Rome (Valentinus presb. m. Romae) and Valentine of Terni (Valentinus ep. Interamnensis m. Romae). Valentine of Rome was a priest in Rome who was martyred about AD 269 and was buried on the Via Flaminia. His relics are at the Church of Saint Praxed in Rome, and at Whitefriar Street Carmelite Church in Dublin, Ireland.

Valentine of Terni became bishop of Interamna (modern Terni) about AD 197 and is said to have been martyred during the persecution under Emperor Aurelian. He is also buried on the Via Flaminia, but in a different location than Valentine of Rome. His relics are at the Basilica of Saint Valentine in Terni (Basilica di San Valentino).

The Catholic Encyclopedia also speaks of a third saint named Valentine who was mentioned in early martyrologies under date of February 14. He was martyred in Africa with a number of companions, but nothing more is known about him.

In Conclusion

15% of women will send themselves flowers on Valentine’s Day stating they love themselves as the reason.  However, this is still giving in to commercialism, because unless one is buying flowers consistently for themselves every week or so they are still attempting to save face in the light of a commercialized holiday when they feel they don’t have the perfect romance on the 14th.  Sadly, deep inside they will still feel the same way after the flowers are delivered, or worse because there is no celebration of love to follow later in the day.

Purchasing flowers to have delivered to oneself on Valentine’s Day is still an attempt to overcome the stigma of the image of not being loved on Cupid’s day.

Valentine’s day is a day to celebrate love, and should be more importantly the recognition of celebrating loving self everyday.

By loving self first you attract more love in your experience.  Investing true love in self will reward you with a love interest in your experience to share love everyday not just on the 14th of February. The power of self-love magnetizes from your heart center a love so strong that it draws to you more love.

True love is celebrated daily in the arms and the eyes of the one beheld.  Trinkets and gifts are given throughout the duration of the relationship as merely an expression of love through tokens of appreciation.

Stop waiting 364 days of the year to over spend money on one day for mere sexual rewards or public material demonstrations of a relationship that quickly evaporates with the setting of the sun on the evening of the 14th.

Be open to allow a significant partner the freedom to display love on Valentine’s Day in whatever way they feel. This is loving them through freedom. You are allowing them to be free to show their love in ways they FEEL over commercialized demand.

The best gift in any year is to renew your love on the 14th of February through mutual communication and open conversation about what love means to each of you as you invest in the development of your future together by continuing to nurture your love daily over any mass marketed commercialism.

LOVE is all that matters after everything is said and done.  Love is all that matters when the candy, dinner, wine and flowers are all gone. 


Relax and let go. You will receive more than you can imagine in the long run.

LOVE is all that matters, not the commercial gain.

(FEEL IT! Re-posting the video above again here just so you can Listen to it again and FEEL the LOVE!)

Love is All that Matters My Angels!




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