We live in a world that has learned to judge everything and everyone. We judge by our own filters and by the ones created by our cultural scripts and race consciousness (thought). Remember, race consciousness has nothing to do with ethnicity. It is the global thought of the masses.
Judgment plays a dominate role in our experience because we live in a shame based society that dictates our behavior forcing us to take actions to fit in. We then take up the torch and judge others by these same cultural dictates while we simultaneously make adjustments in our own experiences. We hold ourselves back from our true dreams and true expressions based on a fear of not being judged and a need to fit in.
Looking at judgment closely we can see it starts with the approvals we are not giving ourselves. It starts with us not allowing ourselves to grow into the fullness of who we are because we are afraid to be judged. In essence we are judging each and every move we make before we take action based on our need to fit in and not be judged by others. We are literally passing judgement on ourselves first. We hold ourselves back from living because of the fear of shame of not fitting in.
We are not here to fit in. We are here to be totally unique and individual. We are here to live by the rules that we set for ourselves over the ones that others are judging us by. When we are holding ourselves back from moving in a certain direction, we are judging ourselves in advance. We are processing what we think others may be thinking about us and our decisions.
The fear of judgment and shame stifles us from taking the necessary actions to fulfill our dreams. So we determine we must not take that action in order to be safe from judgment. Truth is, you are not safe. You are not safe because you had to judge yourself first in order to make the decision to not take action on something you want to take action on.
It all starts with self-judgment, which means you are not comfortable in your own skin. It means you are not loving who you are fully, but seeking to become something that you feel will be approved of by others. This keeps us rooted in shame and afraid to move in any direction that would topple the belief that we are not fitting in.
Terry Cole Whittaker has a statement, and a book by the same title, “What you think of me is none of my business”. However, It should be understood that whatever you think of yourself becomes the very filter that you will judge others by. If you are busy loving yourself and using your trials to grow into your POWER, you will find a warm heart to love others through their trials because you have found love in self through your own. If you are judging yourself to fit into the world’s idea of perfection vs. shame, you will judge others to fit into the same.
You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. ~Romans 2:1
Moving out of judgment means moving into love. It is loving self more and more through every mistake knowing that you are only gaining more awareness of self in the process. It is loving yourself so much that you have no time to judge what others are doing or saying, nor do you take on the feelings of shame because they are judging your actions. Self-mastery is grounding in self-love. It is being able to absorb the darts of self-judgment and use them to build a shield of protection that gives you self-confidence to get up and continue to explore L.I.F.E. based on your own internal barometer, not those inflicted by society.