You are the greatest thing that will ever happen to You! Believe it! Know IT! LIVE it! All else will multiply into the greatness you seek as it begins to mirror the reflection of who you see yourself as. ~Dr. Diva Verdun
Sometimes we are so caught up in our own pain that we don’t even realize that we are not loving ourselves. We walk around all day wearing our feelings on our sleeves expecting others to recognize our pain. We want them to say something, do something, or make us feel something that we feel we are missing. We want special consideration and adoration from them. We want them to stop their lives to give us what we need. We want them to put aside their own feelings and see what we are going through and to be there for us and put us back in one piece. We want them to reach out and hold us, to heal us and mend our broken hearts and wipe away our shame. The truth is we cannot expect this from other people when we are not willing to take the time to invest this into ourselves.
People are busy living their own lives and moving through their own trials, pain and shame. It is not that they don’t recognize that you are hurting, it is that they are literally feeling the same way you feel. They want you to reach across the expanse and heal them as well. Meanwhile, there is a huge divide where no one is experiencing any healing.
Healing starts on the inside moves to the outside. Healing is an internal process. It is a process of moving through your own pain. It means you have to hug and hold yourself and to know that everything will be alright as you continue to invest the much-needed love in yourself. In loving yourself you open the door for those you want to acknowledge your pain to have compassion and to be there for you as you move through your own issues. It is a process of attraction. You must create something to be attracted to, and the strongest magnet is self-love.
No amount of prayer from millions of other people will be affective for you until you turn within and recognize who you are. As soon as you do, the reservoir of love and understanding opens and begins to pour out a blessing that you have not room to receive it. People will be genuinely concerned about you. They show you kindness in the smallest measures. Intimate relationships heal and become stronger and bonding. Healing begins to take place throughout all your interpersonal relationships. This is because you changed your aura.
You have to change the aura around you from one of pain and despair to one of joy and love of self, even in the midst of the deepest pain and shame. Expecting others to fix your emotional issues and make you feel better is fantasy. No one can heal you but you! No one wants to be around an aura of consistent pain and despair either, because they are experiencing their own issues daily as well. They will be there for the proverbial pat on the back, hold your hand or hug you and give you wise words of council for a moment. However, these moments will be short-lived and you are then on your own to experience your healing, which comes from within you.
Expecting others to give you what you need emotionally, or to treat you the way you feel you should be treated starts with what you give, and how you treat yourself. You are the physician. You make the prescription for yourself and then you go about the healing process. If you are prescribing a bottle of “no one loves me”, it is not healing. It is a misdiagnosis that will result in more drama, pain and shame. If you are prescribing a bottle of “self-love”, your healing will result in joy, happiness and renewed relationships.
You are worthy and deserve the best treatment possible. You are worthy of love and respect. You are worthy of living a full and abundant L.I.F.E. Live it! It is all about how you treat yourself. It is the example by which all others will follow on how they will treat you. It is not a spoken path. It is what you demonstrate through your own BEING.