Twin Flames - Dr. Diva Verdun

Soul Mates vs. Twin Flames and the Stages of Twin Flame Relationships

What’s the difference between soul mates and twin flames?

Soul Mates: Soul mates are divine extensions from the same oversoul. The oversoul or I Am presence oversees and stays connected to all of it’s soul extensions bringing lessons and soul experiences to assist the soul in becoming an ascended master. The oversoul sets up soul contracts for learning within it’s “group” of soul extensions. Every person in your life….your parents, close friends, romantic relationships, children, bosses etc. are all your soul mates. Soul mates do not necessarily mean that they are “loving” relationships. Our soul mates can be some of our most difficult relationships as they teach us our greatest lessons. (Technically, since we are ONE….everyone on the planet is our soul mate….however, there are definitely closer, more resonate soul mates that are from the same oversoul.)

If you are wanting to draw a romantic “soul mate” to you, make sure you ask for the most compatible soul mate for your highest and best good, and one that has a monogamy gene….unless you are ok with having an unfaithful partner and want to experience multiple partners at one time. In essence, make sure you are very clear with what you want in order to attract a soul mate that will be balanced for you.

The more you love yourself….the more loving soul mate relationship you will attract. Remember, it is your state of consciousness that creates your reality ~ so whatever programs and beliefs you have will attract relationships to you to help you heal any distortions within your being that are not based on truth.

Twin Flames - Dr. Diva Verdun

Twin Flames: Are soul mates that are exactly like you. Your twin flame is your closest soul extension and can be a very powerful, deeply loving and fulfilling relationship. However, if you don’t love your self then you will not have a compatible relationship with your twin flame. They will mirror every negative program, emotion, feeling and belief you have…..these relationships can be very trying if you have not cleared your negative programs and stepped into self-love, respect and compassion for the self.

“Usually,” we do not attract our twin flame until we have found balance within our masculine and feminine energies and have reached a state of unification and enlightenment …..but that is not always the case. Because you are a Creator Being, through the focus of your attention….you can attract your twin flame. Oftentimes, our twin flame is not incarnated into 3D….more times than not, our twin flame is an aspect of our higher self who resides in the spiritual realms who guide us and helps us move into oneness and unity consciousness. If our twin flame has incarnated into 3D, then usually we have work to do together to assist with the transformation and healing of the planet. This is RARE, but it is definitely an option….remember….CREATION has no limitations!

Our soul mates and twin flames are our soul family. We know each other from other places and other times ~ our hearts will be attracted. We have many soul mates yet only one twin flame to choose from, and it is our subconscious and heart-felt intentions that will draw to us the soul mate/twin flame based on our negative and positive qualities. Usually, the twin flame is not magnetized forward until the soul is purified enough to give and receive the unconditional love and universal mirrors that will be reflected to them. The twin flame is an aspect of our higher self… will lovingly show us what we need to work on so we can merge into oneness and unification.

Reprint from Sabrina Reber

The Stages of a Twin Flame Relationship

  1. Recognition and Temporary Spiritual Awakening
  2. Testing
  3. Crisis
  4. Runner Dynamic
  5. Surrender
  6. Radiance
  7. Harmonizing

**The Key to getting to the final Harmonizing stage with the least amount of suffering is to bypass one’s own Testing, Crisis and Runner stages.  This can be accomplished by staying surrendered to G…od throughout. **

Stage 1:  Recognition and Temporary Spiritual Awakening

Characteristics of Stage 1:

Both Twins recognize one another at the soul level and feel as if they have met before.  Synchronous events surround the union.  The heart chakras open and both souls quickly merge into a third unified energy.  Both Twins experience an acceleration of spiritual understanding.

The purpose of the Recognition and Temporary Spiritual Awakening Stage:

To activate the memory of each soul’s life mission and to help awaken each Twin to higher levels of consciousness.

Stage 2:  Testing

Characteristics of Stage 2:

The initial temporary spiritual awakening (illumination) fades. The ego (“little self”) begins to re-emerge.  One or both Twins may attempt to fit the relationship into the “old model” of Love, couple-hood and relationship as it relates to their ego desires and learned belief system.  Inner conflict arises.  Twins ruminate on what they were taught to believe their beloved “should be” and how relationships are supposed to serve them.

Both Twins feel simultaneously inspired and toppled by the power of the union.
Doubts creep in making one or both Twins begin to view their beloved critically or suspiciously.

The purpose of the Testing stage:

To cause outdated mental concepts about relationships to rise to the surface to be cleared.

Stage 3:  Crisis

Characteristics of Stage 3:

The crisis of the Twin is realizing they must reject their egoic beliefs about Love relationships or reject their beloved.  Having to shed “little self” or identity-based beliefs and desires to embrace a higher expression of Love can lead to stubbornness and anxiety.  Fear can take hold, triggering many dysfunctional emotional patterns.  In staying present with the patterns, they can be witnessed and released.

Despite fears, both Twins naturally come together in cycles for bonding, confession, forgiveness and Lovemaking.  These rituals cement higher levels of consciousness into the energy fields of both Twins.

The purpose of the Crisis stage:

To provide opportunities for the healing and maturing of the mental and emotional bodies.

Stage 4:  The Runner Dynamic

Characteristics of Stage 4:

The human ego naturally fears annihilation in the face of the Unified Consciousness encoded inside the Twin Flame Union.  The pain body rises up and old ego survival mechanisms or “bottom of the barrel” emotional and mental patterns like defiance, resistance, manipulation, anger, punishing and judgment arise.

One or both Twins become emotionally and mentally flooded with deep pain from what feels like soul-level rejection and abandonment.  The unbearable soul-level pain leads one or both Twins to withdraw physically and block communication in fear and futility.  One or both Twins may unsuccessfully try to re-create the original unified harmony.

The purpose of the Runner Dynamic:

To propel both individuals towards God for healing and maturation of the spiritual body.

NOTE:  The temptation to engage in ego battle or withdrawal is very seductive and difficult for many to resist, which is why many Twins never reach Surrender, Radiance or Harmony.

Remember, there is no room for judgment in Twin Soul pairings. Each soul learns from much walking its own path and choosing through its own will.  Your non-attached loving thoughts will be felt by your beloved in the subconscious, keeping them strong.

Stage 5:  Surrender

Characteristics of Stage 5: 

The direction and outcome of the relationship is surrendered to God in full faith and trust that the Union is under Divine Protection.  It is accepted that what is best and destined for the final physical harmonizing will transpire in its own time. (Both Twins must reach Illumination in order to harmonize in the physical)

The “Runner” Twin is allowed the space and freedom to choose to evolve at their own pace in their own way.  At this stage, the frequency of compassion returns and maintains itself.  The Surrendered Twin holds a heart space for their beloved while fully exploring life on the way to becoming an Illuminated human.  This may be a time of channeling Unconditional Love into art, music, writing, teaching, active service or some other creative outlet.

Purpose of the Surrender stage:

To help each soul release the ego, develop regular communication with God and demonstrate their full trust in God to do what is best and when.

Stage 6:  Self Realization, Illumination, Radiance

Characteristics of Stage 6: 

Twin Flames - Dr. Diva VerdunThe ego or “little self” dies and the God-force energy takes over the body.  This leads to a complete spiritual awakening, arriving at one’s fully awakened divinity. This is the stage of radiating Divine Love rather than seeking romantic Love.

At this stage, the surrendered Twin’s emotional, mental and spiritual bodies arrive at full maturity.  New creativity and healing abilities arise, which are put in service to assist others.

Purpose of the Radiance stage:

To establish an outward flow of Divine Love through one’s body and works, which vibrates at a level that uplifts humanity.

Stage 7:  Harmonizing

Characteristics of Stage 7:

By this stage both Twins have awakened.  They come together in the physical to assimilate their newly evolved energies, flowing into the new dynamic of their Unified Potential.  Both Twins integrate fully into the third energy of Unconditional Love in a way that influences others towards their own heart opening.

Purpose of the Harmonizing stage:

To fulfill the intended mission of the Twin Flame Union.
**Twin Flame relationships come into your life to help mold you to embody the vibration of Unconditional Love.**

Reprint from Dakini’s Bliss Yoga

Summation by Tiffany Williford

Twins and soul mates are two entirely different things.

If you do believe in reincarnation and past lives, you could literally have thousands of soul mates out there, people you have bumped into constantly over your many, many lives along with the karma which comes with it.

But the Twin is different. It is literally your missing half from the beginning of Time. You can have 1000s of soul mates but there is only one Twin. The reunification of Twins is also a very, very holy event.

This awful event caused Twins to separate and the search of true love is really a search for the missing Twin. Their reunification is holy because it is literally the coming together of a PRIMARY energy from Source itself. Meaning, the energy Twins generate is of such a high frequency and so pure, that the work that Twins do together is of immense importance and usually helps inspire humankind to evolve to a higher state of consciousness, which is why Twins finding each other during this time of transition would go a long way.

All Twin relationships are a reflection of the most ancient and primary of Twins, Osiris and Isis, the first king and queen of Egypt. Twinship is not about romance, candle light dinners, great sex, buying a condo together and shared investments and retirement savings plans (Though it probably will include that later). It is about two souls coming together to be of benefit and service to humanity, usually by inspiring and leading others with the creative work they do together, whether that be the books they write together, the ideas they come up with together, the healing work they do together, the artistic and creative output they do together etc. The works they produce together usually live on, long after they have gone.

71 thoughts on “Soul Mates vs. Twin Flames and the Stages of Twin Flame Relationships

  1. Is there a way that I can talk to someone one on one into a circumstantial situation that evolved in my life…? I am trying to find deeper learning into everything. I have these energies that guide me, but at times they guide towards good things with others while creating bad for the others. I can’t truly explain it without telling my whole story and situations. I have been trying to find someone who has huge knowledge of these topics and not any influence of opinion but of deep knowing. I would appreciate any help in guiding me to someone whom I can speak with. Peace, Love, Light. Namaste.

    1. Blessings Precious ONE!

      You submitted a submitted a request on my blog several weeks ago. I apologize for the delay in response due to my schedule. Your request is regarding deeper learning into everything… You are awakening into higher levels of truth and this causes some conflicts in your experience as you begin to make decisions for yourself based on what your soul is yearning to express. People in our circle begin to feel isolated when we make these changes because the relationships with other people changes as we continue to grow. These changes are normal. It causes Universal shift making the others grow or go as you continue to awaken in your own truth. Spirit is guiding you to unfold into the beauty you are. The guidance you seek has already begun to unfold within you. How may I be of assistance in you re-birth?

      Dr. Diva

  2. I am recently separated from my twin flame. He ran and I have been in severe pain since. I am having a battle between my heart and head. My heart and soul is telling me he is my twin flame but my head is telling me to move on and to let go. I have had psychics tell me he is my twin flame and also I just know. I need help battling my ego. What can I do while I am separated from twin flame? I want him back so badly.


    1. This is a very difficult experience. True love ALLOWS precious ONE!!! Your heart hurts because of fear of loss. When we practice allowing we become stronger in the KNOWING that Spirit is moving on our behalf always even when we yearn to be with a beloved. If this person is your twin, you must ALLOW the growth that is necessary to evolve for both yourself and your beloved. This period of long suffering teaches many valuable things and is a process that is allows your soul to blossom into its fullest potential. ALLOW the Growth that comes from the space. Your heart will begin to align with Spiritual truth and you will begin to feel settled within as you ALLOW the natural perfection of the relationship to evolve in due season. Love and the Magic of the Light!


  3. I have had the great pleasure of finding my twin. We met when we were 15. Started a short but pretty powerful relationship. He took off about a year later (after talking about it now he said he didn’t know why, he just felt he had to leave) we stayed connected and was in and out of each others lives for a year after that. Then we both started a new relationship with 2 other people. For almost 8 years we were with these people and not talking to each other. We both did a lot of growing but I’d have to say my twin needed the most growing. He had twin girls with this other woman and from this he learned how to love himself. To me I believe this was the key that allowed us to come back together and actually work this time. He never left my mind or heart in the time we were seperated. It took a lot for me to actually let go to allow both of us to go our seperate ways. After reuniting, I can’t even describ the wonderful feeling it was. All that pain and hurt from the past washed away and again I felt whole. My soul had be awakened and felt so alive. The passion and love we have for each other is immeasurable. It would have never worked if we didn’t seperate. Our love for each other never went away and deep down I knew that even if we were not able to be with each other this lifetime that we would be together on the otherside. We are now married and have a son together. Both of us has said we never thought we could be so happy. We are in harmony. There are so many more details I have left out but I would be writing for hours. I’m not asking if this is a twin flame relationship because deep down I know. It’s an overwhelming powerful feeling that has never gone away or lessened over the years. I just wanted to share my story.

  4. I recently experienced my heart chakra opening or awakening rather. It felt like a door on hinges that swung open. Literally. Ever since my heart has been on fire in my chest, and it expands all the way up into my throat. It’s this pulsating, warm, expanding and euphoric feeling and love just beams like the sun. It first happened when I saw a picture of this guy, then when I met him in person, now it’s anytime I think of him, or read a message from him.

    I’ve never experienced this before. I wonder if he feels it too. If it has anything to do with him. If it means anything in regards to a soul connection or if he was just the catalyst for that awakening.

  5. I am trying to wrap my head and heart around this as the relationship I am in now I honestly believe we are twin flames. I believe I was the runner twin and he has come back to me as we knew each other as teens but due to life went our separate ways and lead the lives we had with our exes. We both experience physical discomfort/pain when we are not together and there is a general peace when we are that has been there since we were teens. I think I am vibrating at a higher level perhaps as at this stage I believe we keep looping into stage 2 and 3 with no real resolution or clarity we just keep going over and over. I think my intuition is showing me his fears and his insecurities, but I do not know if I am strong enough to keep both of us sustained. I took time to work on my issues after my divorce and I am not sure he has and he has the ability to really pull me down, I seem to just soak into his moods. He can be controlling, manipulative and demanding on my time and me, causing fear and anxiety that causes me to shut down completely until I get my barrings back. He becomes hurt and detached if I don’t have constant physical contact when we are sleeping, walking, driving and I am to stop what I am doing if he is home. I am not perfect but I would like to know how I can pull him up out of the darkness and keep myself from being pulled down. Both of our egos clash, but the things I learned on my journey while single is not something I am willing to drop as they have become great strengths I believe for me. I could go on and on, sorry to have been this long.
    Thoughts on moving forward or should I step back and see if we catch up ? Thank you

    1. Hello Precious Angel,

      As I have shared with many, only you can know if you are truly in a twin flame relationship. No one can tell you this is truth or not for you and the other person as it is something that you both will intuitively know. It is interesting to get so many responses and questions from women that have decided the man they are in a relationship with is their twin, when the man has not come into this reality at all, and may not in this life time, leaving this experience to be played out again in a future existence. In essence, when you know someone is your twin there is no question in you mind, no doubt in your heart. YOU SIMPLY KNOW!!! and so does the other person. It is more than just a familiarity. IT IS A KNOWING.

      I would advise you to really look closely at your relationship from a different perspective to be sure you are not slipping into co-dependency. Many times we women want a relationship to work so badly that we are willing to find some spiritual way to define the trauma we experiencing from the relationships we are in. This combination of fear and uncertainty leaves us questioning ourselves and actually slipping into situations where we lower our boundaries in order to overcompensate for our partners need to control, manipulate and be over demanding because of their own insecurities.

      In essence, We can fit any relationship into a twin flame experience if we search hard enough to do so. However, whether you currently are in a relationship with your future twin flame is not for me to say, but from what you have shared here I am concerned that co-dependency may be a factor that needs to be identified before you come into a full conclusion if he is your twin or not. Again, no one can tell you if this person is truly your twin flame or not, it is something you simply KNOW on a very deep level. It is not a guess of trying to define the relationship by some spiritual terms because it is not working the way you want it too. Also note that any relationship can go through many of these stages if one is looking to categorize what they are going through rather than deal with the real issues they are currently experiencing.

      You state that you have been on a journey and that you are not willing to drop it because of the strengths you are gaining. Meditate about continuing on that path and be open to ALLOW whatever Spirit is bringing into your experience to come, and free to ALLOW whatever is leaving for whatever reason to leave. Do not force your blessings precious ONE!!!

      You are deserving of all the love in the Universe, especially your OWN… Trust your own intuition… You know exactly what you need to do… Trust yourself and move in that flow.

      Here is another article I wrote that may help bring some additional clarity.

      Love and the Magic of the Light!


      1. Thank you so very much. I do worry about co-dependancy, have asked myself exactly that. I think and this may sound strange that I have been pulled away from him(him being my twin flame not necessarily the man I am with now…) before this life and have carried that pain thru this one. I don’t know what happened I just know I landed here heartbroken. It is important for me to not put expectations on ideas and people. If he is my twin flame, I have continuously felt that I may not be his forever person or that he is not ready to receive me. I will read more as I feel like I am walking a tight rope.

        Thank you, Thank you, Thank you
        Blessed be. Angie

  6. I have a couple of questions for you. HOW do you release the twin to grow? How do you not have them in all and everything you do? I physically don’t see this person, but they are there through each and every shift I make. And it’s said everywhere to ‘let go and let God’, I understand the words, but not the actions. I’ve done every sort of releasing, cutting chords, walls and anything I can think of, or have been advised to do, yet still they are there – the only thing I usually get out of that it, is a headache.
    So please give me some advice on releasing.
    Many thanks and much love to you,

    1. Hello precious Angel!

      Letting go is exactly that… Let go… I had a mentor have me hold a spoon up over the floor once and she said, “Now let it go”… So i opened my grip and let the spoon hit the floor. She told me that releasing something was just that simple. We simply let it drop. She asked me what did I feel moved to do next, and I told her to pick up the spoon. She said exactly… that is what we do when we release our stuff to Spirit. We let it go and then we pick it back up.

      You see my Angel, the problem is not in the releasing, it is in the picking it back up. For some reason we don’t believe the Universe can take care of things without our control, and we need assurance of that control. In essence, We simply do not trust God to be God. We don’t trust that God can take care of us and all those we care and love and feel we need to do something in order to stay in control of the situation.

      Your issue is not in the release, because it is something you have expressed you want to do. Your issue is in allowing the same thoughts to continue to play over and over in our mind. You continue to think about it, worry about it, and need assurance about it, and thus try with all your mental effort to define it, or fix it. When you release “the spoon”, the key is not to pick it back up. You let it go…

      Here is an article I wrote on “Letting Go to Grow” that may help you move through the process of learning to let the spoon stay on the floor. Actually, I would advise you to actually drop a spoon on the floor just so you can attach a mental feeling to this experience. It is rather powerful as an exercise. Try it!

      Love and the Magic of the Light,


      Here’s the link to the article:

  7. I have gone back and forth from heaven to hell and back again with mine. He is in jail right now, he will be out in a month. We will not jump back in together right away. We still have a little learning to do about ourselves. Still have some parts of the ego that are getting in the way. I do anyway. I blamed it on him our entire relationship. Then one day I looked back and realize the transformations we’ve experienced, over and over. Each time rising a little bit higher. I feel like we were once together in eternity, before we met here on earth. He is my best friend. My counselor. My teacher. My student. My equal. It no longer matters to me that we are not experiencing our relationship in the way that we were conditioned to believe it should be. Because now that we’ve let go of our roles, and the preconceived ideas of what we thought the other “SHOULD” be, we found real and true connection. I feel like we are here to save the world. One heart at a time. We have big dreams, we want to do much. I think this last period of separation has came coupled with the greatest of all transformations. I have grown so much, shed so much, illuminated so much. I have found true compassion and forgiveness for myself. I think that was the first step in rebuilding. I don’t need to forgive him. I forgave him before he ever hurt me, before I ever even recognized him.

  8. Hello Diva, I met this guy when I was seventeen. I loved him very much and for years I pined after him, I felt his energy in my heart and I still wanted to be with him for quite a while ten years. I hadnt seen him in a long time and the strangest thing happened. I had a dream one night in which I ran into him and he asked me to meet him at a mcdonalds so we could talk. I did meet him there and then from there he took me to another place. A dark place. He was wearing a brown sachel in which he opened. He handed me a pink crystal it was so shiny and bright and beautiful. Translucent in form. He told me to hold it for him. I did. Then he pulled out a sketch book and handed it to me. He then asked me to hold onto it. Which I did. NowI am skilled at interpreting dreams but this one was too much for me to interpret. The thing is I had always thought he was the guy I was supposed to be wirh but that was when I was younger. Over the yesrs I have come to realize that relationships are here for growth and development. And you should never limit the amount of love you give especially when you have the personality type I have. I am super sensitive so Iwatch how I treat people and what I allow myself to get mixed in. Anyhow I moved back to my home town and for a little bit I tried to find him but I quit because I couldnt stand how intense the need was to have him. I didnt think it was healthy so I let it go those feelings and everything. Anyway fast forward For the past three years I have been feeling in my spirit that the man Im supposed to be with is on his way. I wondered how if I met this man I would know. Well I met this guy four years ago when I moved here in church I attended.Im not one easily impressed but when I saw him I was like wow what a sight. Not only that he was playing a guitar, me I like to write. Anyway he is alot older than me a whole lot older and we have been seeing eachother a whole year since that first time we met four years ago. Here is what I have discovered. Our personalities are opposites but they fit well. Like our differences make up different pieces of the same puzzle. We deffinitely have the highest love making compatibility possible and he has a way of discussing matters in my heart. At times we will think the same thought. Anyway the bad thing is we fight because he seems insensitive to me and I call him out on it. This is what start to escalate. So basically there have been shouting and everything but you know I apologize and then try to discuss things with him. He really does not talk about the things that I feel are importatnt. He brushes them off. Our communication styles are diff. He wants to be active. Me I want to talk. Now I have thought plenty of times to leave however for some reason I am convinced we are meant for each other. I never waiver in my love. Arguments and all of the differences to me are just a part of the inner parts that we need to talk out. I feel like they will go away as maturity sets in. Anyway my question is how can we both work on us. I would like to give details regarding why I feel the way I do and examples of what Im talking about but that takes a long time. It would uave to be emailed but I do need help and understanding. He has told me that he has tried to walk away from mebut can’t. I understand because its the same thing with me. It look like I should but I dont want too. Ive never felt the way about any man the way I do him. When we argue I still want him next to me. I have never put this much effort into a relationship. Im actually looking for ways to make it better. I wish I could let you know what I see intuitively but I cant. I just know this guy I only cannot but will not walk away from.
    My email is

    1. Thank you for sharing your journey. In the space of time since you posted this message my prayer is that you have found the answers through your own spiritual work. Many times we want to make things work and get in Spirit’s way of working things out for us. Be assured in your meditation that you are ALLOWING your higher good to be expressed through you as you ALLOW your soul to whisper discernment between unconditional love and co-dependency.

      Dr. Diva

    1. Hello precious one. True surrender means total release. It means letting go the need for a specific outcome as specified in one’s mind. In surrender we are trusting the Universe fully for our highest and best good and the best and highest good of all those we love and are associated with. To assist anyone in their growth we let go so they can grow and in the process we grow too. Let go of the desperation of fear that the twin will not return or the need to manage their growth. Breathe and release… Let go! Love and Enlightenment.


  9. I cane across the twin flame concept when trying to make sense of a very difficult ongoing relationship. He and i were together when we were young – 42 years ago. It was head over heels everything and we had a child. but then split up. I was totally traumatised by it, but got on with life as best I could. All contact was lost.I settled with another man, but my first and only real love was always there.There were dreams when we got together during the years. The other man and i split eventually, 2 more children down the line. I eventually set about finding the first – for our daughters’ sake -not mine. It was so easy to find him There he was and eager to resume our relationship despite living with a woman who is a full on sociopath. It was so easy to be with him. I fell in love with him again, but his other (step)family means that he chooses to stay there. All the old trauma has materialised and I have never cried so much since we split. I suppose that this is the purpose of our meeting again. To release all that pain. He knows my feelings and I know his .I can’t go back to not having him in some way in my life. I can feel his presence all the time and it is the same for him. He complains about this and even trying to have another life with someone else just isn’t possible any more. How do i do that when he is in my head and heart all the time. ALL THE TIME .Even work flows in when he is running towards me. Even if everything else can be explained, this one is different. I can tell when he is about to reappear in my life because of this.

    1. Hi Lynda,

      Relationships are tools that teach us on great levels. They are there to provide us with healing, insight, and growth. For many they seek the relationship for love, but the truth is that love starts with self first. In essence as women, we can get caught up the fantasy of a relationship that went wrong for whatever reason. We may even live our whole lives in the fanstasy of the renewal of the relationship to end up disappointed when we manifest it back into our experience. We have grown, the other person has grown and things will never resume from where they use to be.

      You stated that he may have surfaced so you can release the pain. Have you released the pain? Or are you still in the fantasy stage of wishing things were the way they use to be? Truth is that regenerating an old relationship takes so much more work than getting into the new and exciting prospects of one that is new. The old relationship is riddled with painful experiences and emotions that must be overcome as well as resentment. There are issues of children and new spouses and relatoinships in between that generate jealousy and envy. There are the questions of what were you doing when and why and on and on and on? If this person is your true twin flame then all of the pain falls away in the midst of the presence. There is no judgment, there is no process to overcome, there is only the loving embrace of the two becoming one again. Twin flames are journeying through their own souls quest to define what is needed in this experience. When they come togehter they are ready to be together and nothing in between is of concern. Only you can know in the depth of your own heart and soul if a person is your twin. It is in letting go and surrendering totally to a new experience with new people that you will find out is the truth of the relationshp. A twin does not need to sabotage your life, they are here living theirs and you are here to live yours.

      Many people want to force dysfunctional relationships into the twin flame experience because they are not ready to face that their fantasy is just that, a fantasy. Allow yourself space to heal and allow yourself space to surrender to the fullness of the process. Relationships are only difficult because we place to many expectations on them rather than using them as tools to find the greater depth within self. Once we become soul satisfied within, then we are healthy and overcome the fractures to allow love to flow freely from us. In turn the love we share multiplies in the Universe and comes back to us. In this magnification of love we attract our true love back into our experience in Divine Order and Divine Timing. Let go and allow all that was to be as it was… now a memory. OPen yourself to the wisdom from the depth of your own soul and surrender to self in the knowing that all that is yours is always yours in Divine Right Magnification and Love.

      Love and Light!


  10. Hello again Dr Diva

    Thank you so much for your answer:)

    Maybe it was a false twin relationship. It was really weird, I felt a knot in my stomach with that person, but a bad one, and that person was destroying me. Although he said I was destroying him, but judging for the way he lives his life over the years, and for what other people told me, I don’t know… could it be both?

    Although i cared for him, and loved him, wanted to help him, but I really felted all along that was not the time for each other to meet, and we needed to be so much mature. and needed to be focusing on ourself’s first, needed to experience life, be more open, be more independent, etc
    We had telepathy and synchronicity, very, very, very strong.. The strongest I’ve ever had, and in very short time.

    We always know what we were thinking and what we were going to say in like, a split of a second!
    And this happened every second, every day! It was very intense.

    We were very much alike in some things, although different in others, but it was so deep, that it was scary, it was, so dark…it was a black hole.
    Although, we were very supportive off each other, and encouraging of each other’s talents.
    We also liked to share with each other our things, and do stuff together. Show to one another what we could do. And we really vibrate with that.
    I did, at least.

    Never got to know if he was sincere about the stuff, From the beginning there was something inside me telling me that he was a liar. He was a really dependent person.
    But in other way, so am I.

    We never saw each other again, and now we are apart. I dream about him all the time, and I still can feel him. It’s like I can feel it’s emotion’s. This has never happen to me with anyone.
    And this relationship last less than a year. I had so intense and durable relationships in my life, I just don’t know if this was traumatic, or if it was really important.

    The mystical, spiritual factor, was always present in our relationship from the beginning.
    And besides the opposite ways of thinking in some ways,it looked like we were growing with each other, but it was so beautiful, deep and so hard and so painful and co-dependent! We we’re going mad! At some point, I felt it wasn’t supposed to feel like that, and I was drained, physically and emotionally sick,
    So i had to give up. And I run from it. I escape.

    I am sorry for the big text, but I am really confused about this.

    Thank you very much.

    1. It is good to see you growing through this process. All relationships are tools we use to learn more about ourselves. No one can give you the specifics of what this experience is granting you in the form of growth. Only you will come to know that with time. For each person can have a similar experience and gain something totally different from it. The problem comes when we feel our hearts sink because what we thought in mind the relationship was it is not in reality.

      You note above shares many different references that share the insight you are coming into because of this experience. By surrendering to the growth experience you will come to know the fullness the process is guiding you through. You can have a soul experience with someone and that person but it does not warrant that the person is actually your twin flame. It is a soul experience that takes you higher into new awareness of self.

      In your note above you reference many red flags that you actually ran through. Red flags are our intuition speaking and when we override them them to move forward we suffer through the consequences, which brings on emotional pain. Per your note you state that the experience was dark and resembled a black hole. Relationships that teach are not dark and do not take us into a black hole when they are right for us. Your note is filled with insight that you have already come into, and if you take the time to re-read it and note the red flags you will see your subconscious has already started guiding you into the light from this experience.

      Experiencing the mystical, spiritual factor is available in all relationships and begins with you. This is because all relationships come from the spiritual element. We all have the capacity to move in this direction and some people have mastered the gift of using it negatively in relationships, while others are afraid of this gift when it surfaces because the connection it generates feel unnatural to them because they have not been socialized in loving and rewarding family experiences.

      Again, there is no way for a person to speak specifics to you regarding if a relationship is good or bad. All relationships are good and may turn out to be unhealthy for us. They are good in the beginning because they are what we want. They may not be the best in our highest and greatest good in the long run, but through the pain we step into because of our own will to override our intuition we get into trouble emotionally and even in that Spirit is still granting us a gift of healing and higher insight.

      Love and Light Precious ONE!!!


  11. hello Dr Diva

    Can you explain about the false twin please?
    And the differences you felt with the true and false twin? Can they be the same person?

    1. Generally the false twin is not your true twin, but then it could also be that it is not time for you to come together as well. The false twin has some similar traits to a real twin but they have not connected to their soul purpose. They are not running, they are not connected or aware at all. They mirror the true twins passions and feed on the true twins energies. They have not found their own soul connection or know their higher purpose in their own lives so they plug into the higher purpose of the true twin. True twin flame relationships are healing at a soul level. They are total connection and freedom in the intimacy (this is not sex) of the relationship. The false twin bears forth some traits but the challenges will bear the fruit of what type relationship it is, if it is simply codependent, false twin etc.. the key is to go within and find the answers within yourself. Only you have the answers. Do not be afraid to listen to your own soul. It is telling you what you need to know. Do not allow your heart or mind to overrule what your soul is telling you as truth. You can not force something that is not real, and that which is real will always bear forth in due time. Your inner guide already knows which is which. Trust IT!!!


  12. Omg. Please respond! I’ve met my Twin mate, I am not confused in the least, its him. A few examples. I swore off real relationships with men, I’m female. After my prior relationship, whom I believe was the “preparer”. I thought wed be married, we were that close, yet no cigar and I’m so glad because it feels beyond awesome to know and love my twin. We telecommunicate! Upon reading on this beautiful union, I realized we could read each other’s thoughts, we tried it and he’d guess right, I’d tell him to concentrate while I yelled to him in my mind. Once I clearly heard him tell me to get up its time to get up in the morning, then he called me minutes later, once I asked God , in my mind, ok?! If he was the one..I can’t even remember why but my soul knew full well that’s how mystical this experience is…and I kid you not outloud seconds later he literally said “I am” I popped up off his chest and said…how’d you know that???? He says he was just singing a song but I was convinced from then on. We don’t finish each other’s sentences, its more like ill think it, but hell verbalize what I was thinking, the exact same thing, this happens too many times to count. Its been less than two mths and weve entered stage 5 he’s running. He says ii can’t be with you, can you believe it??? After all the undeniable, and that’s only a strong few, because he says he wants to be bettter. When we met we were on two totally yet strangely similar paths. Were both from the same city but met on the greyhound because where he was living they put him out, he’s a sweet, calm mannered gentleman so I can only believe God did it because it was time. I was pursueing music in another state after mths of convincing myself to. We were on our way back to our home town. I could go on , I swear. Like the fact I could look in his eyes for years, I’ve had trouble with eye contact all my life, the thing is we both were unemployed, I found employment..him not yet and it makes him feel not like a man because he can’t provide for himself let alone me, how sweet right, but the fact he’s cutting me down to friend one is hurting. Your article truly helps me get this. I’m concerned with how long will it take for him to come back. I love Jim with all my heart everything about him. Please help

    1. Hello Shenae,

      Telepathy is something each of us can tap into as we are all of the ONE MIND. We can tap into each other’s thoughts and we can feel them if we are sensitive to our empathic capacities. Only you can truly KNOW that a person IS your Twin. No one can tell you any different because this is something only you and the twin can KNOW… I stress KNOWING from a deeper level past experiences like telepathy because this can be a generic experience for anyone that is attuned to these natural tendencies. Natural twins access this power from the womb, many times finishing each others thoughts verbally. One can start a sentence and the other finish it and they both shake their heads in agreement during a conversation. It is a strange situation to witness and rather entertaining to have a discussion with natural born twins that are so naturally plugged into each others thoughts. However, just because they are plugged in telepathically does not make them twin flames, even though they may share the same zygote. Thus, I state again to KNOW… accent KNOW… the twin flame is much deeper than physic intelligence. It is a CONNECTION FROM A SOUL LEVEL.

      I receive many women’s responses here, very few from men that claim they have met their twin, siting the difficulties they have had in the relationship and their belief that this person is their twin despite the red flags they are seeing. It is so easy for the ego to see what it wants to see than to recognize red flags for what they truly are. I caution all to really search deeply for clues that the ego may be tricking you into believing and waiting for a unhealthy relationship to manifest as something that it is not.

      Many people come in and out of our experience in relationships to teach us many lessons as we grow in the awareness of our higher selves. This is the nature of relationships. Many come to us as soul mates that trickling into our experience briefly as we both share a moment that attunes us to new thoughts and allows us to grow through old pent up pain to resolve our own insecurities and fears. It is interesting to note that all relationships can fit into this pattern of the twin flame relationship if we so wish to fool ourselves into this belief. Again, this is the ego determining to make itself right in a particular relationship that this is the right one, when in essence it may not be all that we originally thought it to be.

      If a person is our twin, that person may not be ready to unite in the twin flame relationship. However, the twin that is aware does not chase, does not pursue, does not force, but KNOWS that the other twin must discover all that it is here to discover in this experience. There is no forcing in thought that one is the twin. There is no question. In fact, for those that have true flame relationships they feel no need to confirm their relationships by anyone, because they simply do KNOW…. It is that small level of doubt that makes us question, no matter how minute. Interestingly, there are very very few that come to this post and share the burst of life and renewal that they are living in the actual twin flame relationship… this is why I always share that only YOU CAN KNOW… If you KNOW this person IS YOUR TWIN… No one can tell you otherwise… YOU SIMPLY KNOW…

      KNOWING is a very deep spiritual experience. It is like your heart beating. You KNOW that it is beating. You don’t question the beat. You don’t doubt or wait for it to beat, you don’t demand it beat or attempt to control the beat of the heart. You simply KNOW it is doing what it was designed to do. Likewise, you simply KNOW your twin when you meet them, and they KNOW you… One twin may be further in evolution than the other one, but this twin KNOWS they cannot force, manipulate, rush or insist on a relationship with the twin that is not ready. They KNOW the twin must be free to explore. They are open to allow soul exploration and continue on their own path because they too can learn and discover more during the process of growth of the other twin allowing them to bring more to the relationship at a later time, even if that is in another lifetime. If there is some heartbreak, this is ego wanting to force what may not yet be or be time to be.

      I do not wish to discourage you from KNOWING… If you KNOW that this person is your twin and you KNOW deeply that this is for you, then I celebrate your KNOWING… Allow this person to explore what is needed for them to satisfy their carnal and materialistic issues so that they can move through life discovery on their own. By releasing the twin to grow, you grow forward and open many more wonderful opportunities to love and have love be a part of your life right now in this moment with or without your twin as you continue to explore and live life fully. You do not stop and wait for the twin. You keep living forward in full force. You then come to realize that if you have met your flame all will come to be as it should be in due time. Meanwhile, enjoy life.



      1. Thank you for your comment. I believe I met my twin flame a couple months ago, momentarily. I work in a grocery store and he came in one morning asking if we had a ATM machine. I told him here at the cash register. He bought a few things and said he needed cash to go back to the other side (across the bridge?}. As I was counting the money to him we made direct eye contact and I felt this overwhelming love! I never felt this feeling before as I knew him and wanted to be with him. It seem like time stood still, I don’t know how to describe it, but overwhelming! I think he felt the same as when he walk out the door he came back in and then he left. I am still hoping he will be back, but I guess he is not ready. I miss him but I will wait!

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