An intimate relationship is one thing each and every person truly desires. We all want to have someone to share special moments while feeling free in their embrace. We want a relationship that is filled with great times, laughter, passion, compassion and great sex. Unfortunately, the dream of the perfect relationship seems to be an unattainable fantasy for so many. This is because once the dating game is over there is no intimacy.
The problem with most relationships is the preconceived thought of what a relationship should be, and the unwillingness by either party to change or accept change. One person is looking for security, the other desperately in need of being loved and neither party receptive to the needs of the other person or to the necessary changes to grow forward together. There is no equilibrium in these relationships even though the chemistry that set it off was originally very strong. This is because the motivation for going into the relationship was not the same for both people.
You can not bring a fractured soul to the relationship and expect the relationship to make you whole. You can not bring a broken heart to the relationship and expect it to be repaired. You can not be in fear of security and expect the relationship to secure you. You can not expect the other person to fill the holes in your own soul. You must repair these things within self first in order to present yourself to your loved one as the best possible mirror reflection you can.
If you are in victim modality when you go into the relationship, you will be in victim modality while in it and find yourself being victimized throughout it, only to end another relationship as the victim of another failed love affair. If you are insecure before you begin the relationship, you will never find security in the relationship either. As well, if you feel unloved or unlovable before you entered the relationship you will never feel loved in the relationship no matter what your beloved does to prove this to you. The key is in securing your relationship with yourself first.
To have the relationship of your dreams, you must become the person you seek in order to attract this type of person to you. You can only attract to you the mental equivalent of that which you already are. So no matter how much you desire the perfect relationship, it can only be as perfect as the relationship you have achieved within. Once you are mature enough to see that it is literally all about you first, then you will continue to grow and be free to allow your mate to grow as well without your need to control them. You will then see the relationship continue to move into higher states of perfection as you grow together in the Divine Embrace.
A relationship is the state of being related or interrelated or the relation connecting or binding the two parties. You must be mature enough to see your own errors, behavior and character flaws and be open enough to take responsibility for what the things you do or don’t do without pointing blame on beloved, your ex, or anyone else.
Your relationship is directly equal to the person you grow to become. Once you look deeply within at yourself, you will begin to find the mirror reflections within those that you attract to you. As you do, you can begin to correct your own flaws, thereby adjusting your relationship magnet to attract to you that which you desire to experience in your relationships with others.