Overcoming Self-Sabotage - Dr. Diva Verdun

Overcoming Self-Sabotage


We are always looking for change to happen. Crying for change to happen. Expecting change to happen.  Yet we do nothing to facilitate the change we want. We continue to sit and wait for the change to miraculously appear in front of us in the form of material things, relationships, career, and more. Nothing happens until we get up and do the necessary work within and then take the action to facilitate the change we desire.

The problems we face are really not from the world itself.  The problems we find ourselves in come from our own errors in judgment that lead us down certain paths, in many cases, the paths of least resistance.  These were our learned ways of coping with stress and problematic issues. They are our negative coping mechanisms that push deeply seated issues below the realm of our conscious awareness. Because we are generally terrified to deal with these issues we suppress, ignore and mask the emotional pain.

Overcoming Self-Sabotage - Dr. Diva VerdunTaking the path of least resistance in many cases means simply allowing things to happen while you wait and hope it is bringing forth something better. It simply seems easier to do or not do something than to do what is necessary to attain that which you really desire.  If you want something to happen in your experience you have to take corrective and necessary positive action.

In almost every scenario, we self-destruct because of our own fear of change or fear of loss of control.  We tend to stay focused on the negative experiences and work to manipulate those experiences to force or resurrect a miracle from something that is already dead. We cannot continue to sit back in a depression, or live in an emotionally traumatic state of mind thinking things will simply resolve themselves.  They won’t. Things can only be resolved when you begin to take the corrective and necessary action to change the way you are thinking about your situation and then take positive action to make the necessary changes that will manifest in the experience you want.

Living in fear of change becomes so engrained that you have no idea that you are even living in fear.  You tell yourself you are simply waiting for recognition, waiting for something to happen, waiting for someone to show up, or waiting for the right opportunity because you are a very patient person.  No! It is simply waiting, and the reason you are waiting is because the fear of change makes you feel totally out of control of your own experience.  So you self-sabotage the good that could come into your experience by not taking action and making it OK by telling yourself that you are simply being patient and that your time is coming.

Time waits for no one.  It will continue to do one thing… CHANGE!  If you do not change with time, then you will never achieve anything more than the experience you are already living.  L.I.F.E.™ is about living, and living is directly connected to change. So if you are experiencing the same emotional trauma, the same financial issues, the same broken heart, the same closed doors at every turn; the question becomes, what inside of you is prohibiting you from changing?

Fearing the loss of control leads to the greatest self-sabotage because of the deeply rooted denial and rebellion.  You may not want to let go of resentment.  You may not want to let go of the person that no longer wants to be with you.  You may not want to let go of the fact you were fired. You may not want to let go of the fact the children are grown and living their own lives and you need to get one for yourself now.  If you want change, you have to be prepared for change, which means you have to simply let go and risk being out on a limb in the waters of the unknown.

Overcoming Self-Sabotage - Dr. Diva VerdunYou may be fearing change on a very deep level that you are not even aware of.  You have to do the work to go within to find and uncover the denial and fear of change and loss of control that sabotages you from moving forward.  The truth is that when you want changes to happen and they are not coming forth, you are not in control of your L.I.F.E.™ anyway.

To overcome self-sabotaging scenarios you have to be willing to step out of your comfort zone. You have to become so familiar with your pain, disappointment and shame that you are aware they are holding you back from moving forward. You have to realize you fear being set back into the same pain if you step out and step out anyway.

You already know how to deal with your pain and disappointment. You have been living in it for years, so why fear moving forward cause it might happen again?  At least you had a new experience and began moving forward even if the new experience brought forth more pain. You now know how to step up and overcome the pain you suffer.

Stop waiting on the Lord, the Lord already gave you time and opportunity.  Get up and get busy.  Stop waiting on a friend, waiting on an opportunity, waiting on a lover, waiting on a job, waiting on something to happen.  Stop waiting!!!  Time waits for no one. Time is always changing. Why are you standing still?  The Universe never gets stuck. IT flows with time. IT never goes backwards. IT never hesitates.  IT simply keeps moving forward.  IT keeps changing.  Why aren’t you?

Namaste!

Diva

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  1. Reblogged this on Dr. Diva PhD Online and commented:

    Time waits for no one. It will continue to do one thing… CHANGE! If you do not change with time, then you will never achieve anything more than the experience you are already living. L.I.F.E.™ is about living, and living is directly connected to change. So if you are experiencing the same emotional trauma, the same financial issues, the same broken heart, the same closed doors at every turn; the question becomes, what inside of you is prohibiting you from changing?

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