Independence Day Part 3 of 3 – Exercising Your Independence (Independence in a Relationship)
September 27, 2009
Exercising Your Independence in a Relationship
Relationships is a huge topic to review and I really do want to delve deeper and share more inspiration with you on the subject of relationships and I will do that as we move forward. Here we will explore just a thought or two regarding intimate relationships as part of the Independence series.
I feel this small nugget of truth will help you to begin opening up so that your awareness will begin to blossom and you will find truth in your new journey toward successful and rewarding relationships that bring about a peace within and a peaceful and loving experience.
Note: I am not specifically referring to relationships filled with control issues or co-dependency here. That we will discuss in another blog. But learning to be more independent even in those situations will help you to move out of low energy vibrations (depression). (Please exercise wisdom, for relationships filled with control and co-dependency issues require much healing and growth on your part when exercising your independence to keep from inviting abuse in the front door. Again, these topics are not reviewed in this blog article.)
In the beginning:
Before you entered into the dating game and found someone special there was only you. You were independent of anyone’s ideas or ideologies, dreams and processes. You were operating solely, making all your own decisions, going where you wanted, when you wanted, with who ever you wanted. Spending your 
money how you wanted, living your life the way you wanted, eating the foods you love, listening to the music you loved and reading the books you loved, and even relaxing the way you always loved too. Then it all changed. You found a special someone that you felt would add to your life. Someone that would love to do all the things that you do. Someone you thought thinks like you or sees things through your eyes. In the beginning it didn’t seem to matter that they didn’t do all the same things you loved to do. You just knew that the feelings for each other were stronger than all the other interest you had by yourself. Besides, you can come up with things you love to do together, right? Then it happened… reality set in and the problems began.
A Testimony – A Letter to My Mentor – Dr. Robbie Gholson Smith
August 21, 2009
This letter was personally written to Dr. Robbie Gholson Smith, my wisest and most loving mentor. I call her Mom, because that is the nature of our relationship. It was an outpouring of my soul and I wanted to share it with you here. I wrote this to her as I moved through some very troubling times into a new realization of self and the yearning to re-established lost relationships that are very important to me. So I typed my handwritten draft for you just before I sent it in the mail to her knowing she would not mind me sharing it with you.
Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible. Mother is the bank where we deposit all our hurts and worries. -Author Unknown *Painting "Mothers Love" by Kolongi
Mom,
I know it has been a long time, to long of a time since we spoke last. I am sorry for putting so much space between us. I have been processing through some things for awhile and it has taken sometime for me to get to a place of release.
The process of pain I’ve allowed myself to suffer through has taken so much away from me over the last 2 years. It has also given me a deeper level of awareness of self and a real vigor for wanting to savor each and every moment of life.
I’ve suffered through almost 50 years (49 now) of my life. I contemplate now what a life of peace and joy and abundance would be like daily knowing I was Divinely crafted to live a life just as so.
The last two years I’ve been so afraid with pride that I really didn’t want anyone to know I had not been able to maintain the awareness of truth of who I am and that I allowed myself to sink into an even deeper pool of lack and limitation loosing everything I had built my life up to.
The last couple of months have shocked me into reality of where I am in my life; almost 50 years old still going through mental anguish. Enough – The END!
Empowering Word of Truth – Trust
August 13, 2009
Trust defined
certainty, belief, faith. Trust, assurance, confidence imply a feeling of security. Trust implies instinctive unquestioning belief in and reliance upon something. Confidence implies conscious trust because of good reasons, definite evidence, or past experience: to have confidence in the outcome of events. Assurance implies absolute confidence and certainty: to feel an assurance of victory.
Moving in a place of real peace so that you can achieve your dreams means that you must totally trust yourself. It is the unquestioning belief and reliance upon one thing; YOU. It is a knowing above all else that you were born with all the resources you need to achieve your purpose. It is a moving deeper into the belief that you were created to live the life you envision in the dream itself.
Trust is a huge element in our moving through this journey called life. Let me lay out a few examples before we go deeper into self-thought about trust.
Perfume From The Essence Of Your Being
August 11, 2009
For centuries perfumers strive to create fragrances that extract the essence of everything from flowers to leather to formulate a perfume that moves the very souls of both the individual wearing it and weave a tapestry of memories for the one smelling it.
They say a fragrance can only be as powerful as the essence of the source the fragrant oil was extracted from. However, My DNA Fragrance has formulated a perfumery process that adds the one missing element to your fragrance, You.
My DNA brings to life a new fragrance concept that captures your very essence in the bottle, giving you the opportunity to wear a perfume that is solely and uniquely you.
Your essence is the basic, real and invariable nature of who you are. It’s the significant individual feature that makes you you and your DNA is the building block of that essence. The very fabric upon which you were created totally and uniquely individual.
How guys think? (reprint by Robert Grice)
July 29, 2009
I found this article while doing some research for my book. I found it informative and thought I would share it with you here in my blog. These are not my words, they are the thoughts and writings of the author as I found it. The article has not been changed or edited
-Dr. Diva
How guys think?
by Robert Grice
Some might ask if men ever think. Since I am a guy I cannot agree that men never think. But, men do have a tendency to think differently than women. One must proceed cautiously because we should not overlook that men and women can vary in the degree of stereotypical characteristics they possess.
However, the anecdotal assumption is that men tend to think in distinctive ways.
First, a man’s every thought is not about sex. Every second or third thought might be about sex but not every thought.
Second, the way men think often fits the social gender roles they are shaped to fill by parents, peers, etc. The traditional male mindset would typically share some mixture of the following characteristics:
Exercising Your Independence to Live Free in your Career Path
Here in American we are celebrating Independence Day. America’s birthday they say. America exercised its Independence and created what we now refer to as the “greatest country on earth” because we have so much freedom and opportunity.
This Independence Day there is much to reflect on with all those that have died in the last few days. From those in Iran during the elections, to some beloved celebrities 
including Farrah Fawcett, Michael Jackson, Ed McMahon, Billy Mays and Steve McNair. Someone said it’s not a good time to be a celebrity. Truth is, many people have moved on to the next experience. These people are merely getting the media attention because they are public figures. Still the lessons here is very empowering. What does Independence Day have to do with these people? Everything!
Each of these celebrities moved mountains in their careers. They changed the world. They were all huge in their own celebrity status, maybe not as iconic as Michael Jackson, but they did all achieve a very high level of success in their own life journey. Each of them chose to go against the status quo to achieve their dreams and become the person we came to love and admire. They exercised their Independence by becoming independent thinkers. They disciplined themselves to listen to their soul and move on their dreams to fulfill their desires.
Independence is about being able to move out of dependence and into a state of self-mastery to achieve the highest levels and degrees of success possible for your life.
Your dream may not be to be a global icon like Michael Jackson or a football great like Steve McNair or even the pin-up model that Farrah Fawcett was. Your dream may be simply to achieve a higher standard of living in your chosen career field and you can.
Celebrating Independent Thinking
Saying Happy Independence Day or Happy 4th of July brought about much contemplation for me. Falling on the heels of the global outpouring of love and controversy over Michael Jackson’s death made the thought process even more complex while I reflected on what does Independence Day really mean to me.
Truth is; do Americans really celebrate the Independence of our country or are they celebrating another holiday filled with BBQ, friends and family because that is what we have been programmed to do? Are we simply celebrating the commercialism of it all?
July 4th is about the Independence of a group of free thinkers that broke away and formed what we now enjoy as a country filled with freedom and opportunity. The big question here is are we really free? I mean truly free, free in mind?
Look at how we are programmed to go out and buy food, chips and fireworks for this one day. Who decided that this is the way we are suppose to celebrate Independence Day? Is everyone in the U.S. making BBQ today? Don’t get me wrong, I love BBQ too. But who decided what foods we eat on what days? I mean have you ever thought about it? Why do we have to wait until Thanksgiving to have Turkey? Who decided that?
Empowering Word of Truth – Forgive
June 30, 2009
The Empowering Word of Truth for June 30, 2009 is Forgive.
Forgiveness benefits you more than the other person because you are taking major steps in self-mastery. You have determined to move to forgive someone despite the pain they have inflicted upon you. Thus, to forgive is to know your are the POWER.
The dictionary tells us the word forgive means to grant pardon for an offense or an offender; to renounce anger or cease to feel resentment against: Syn. excuse, absolve, acquit.
The deeper underlying meaning is to give in advance. It means to give for (before).
This is a concept that requires great discipline as our ego wants to be right all the time and feels the need to be exonerated. The challenge of self-mastery is learning to let things roll off your back and keep moving without holding a grudge or ill will against someone.
You do not have to choose to allow anything to ever affect you. It is your life journey and everything that you experience affects you one way or another. However, moving in a spirit of forgiveness allows you the opportunity to truly move in your POWER and the reward thereof. It brings you peace and the fullness of abundance in every good thing.
The ego feels the need to speak or act out to settle the score. However, these actions only continue to fuel the issue keeping you in bondage.
What really bothers me most about Micheal’s death is that I knew him in soul.
I have always felt I was to reach out to him, and I never ever did. I’ve been to busy working on my own life. There is a real lesson here to be learned.
I’m same age as Michael and my best friend Gloria Altemus, and they are now both dead. How much longer do I wait for the right opportunity to strike out on what I know to do or dream for myself? How much longer do I allow my own fears to hold me back from living my deepest dreams?
Time is of the essence because life is to be lived fully in each moment. Are we really really living it? I mean really living it?
None of us expected this to happen. No one. How does someone as large as Michael Jackson die from cardiac arrest? It reminds us that he was human like us. He was a world Icon. How could this happen? Wow! Your heart can just simply stop on you and you collapse and then you’re dead.
Death. Looking at all the people that died in Iran over the weekend. Thank Michael, Farrah and Ed. And for me, my best girlfriend of 36 years died from cancer just 3 months ago. Life is so fragile, and very very valuable, we must LIVE every moment fully. How though when there is so much death around us? To understand the answer we must look at it differently. Death IS life. Death lives between each breath and so does life. Its the ultimate yin and yang. We breathe in life and when we exhale we have no guarantee that we will breathe the next breathe. NONE! Death is LIFE! Life is DEATH! Its all in the power of our breathe. So with death so close to us every single day we have no time to waste, no moment to spare. It is time to LIVE, LIVE past our jobs and careers. I mean LIVE, live in your soul.
You were created a Beautiful Diva!
Learn to recognize, appreciate and fully live that beauty
(Adults may take the class too – Moms and Daughters can both attend)
Divas, you must know you were created Perfect, Whole and Complete – Beautiful!
Recognize YOUR beauty
Overcome being shy, be YOU
Dr. Diva Verdun is a renowned empowerment coach and public speaker who uses life-skills and her special empowerment system to instantly change your life forever. Her fire and passion drives students to see the best in themselves and take control of how they perceive themselves and their lives verse society’s attempt to shape our perceptions of what we should look like, be like or dress like.
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